Marriage Tips from a Novice:
1.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Seriously friends, if it’s really that
important that the toilet paper goes on the roll in a particular direction then
just do it yourself. My husband has a lovely habit of leaving his shoes all
over the house. Although, it really
frustrated me in the beginning, I try now to focus on all the great things he
does do around the house and when I just can’t look at his shoes in the middle
of the floor for one more second, then I pick them up and put them away myself.
2.
Seeing is believing. I
think it’s important to constantly think of ways to show your love to
your spouse in their love language. (If you don’t know your spouse’s
love language buy5 Love Languages asap!)
For example, my primary love language is quality time, as is Josh’s, so this
one is super easy for us. I also enjoy
gifts, thoughtful gifts. It makes me so
happy to walk into the house and see a fresh bouquet of stargazer lilies, my
favorite! He usually buys them and arranges them himself which means much more
to me than him buying them from a florist for $50! Such a small simple gesture
but it lets me know he thought about me.
3.
Laugh. The bible says, “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine” (Prov. 17:22).
Don't be afraid to be silly together, often. I have a tendency to
get extremely hyper and random times. During said times I may jump on the bed
dance around in circles or do anything else that pops into my head. We both end up laughing hysterically at the
end of these episodes. Other times, when I’m being extra fussy, Josh will do
something extremely silly (and usually inappropriate) to make me laugh. It’s impossible to be mean and grumpy while
you’re laughing. Try it!
4.
Humble Yourself. Dr. Phil always
says, “Do you want to be right or happy?” There comes a point when winning the
argument isn’t a victory at all. At our
couples conference last year my biggest take away was this… We are a team, we either win together or
lose together. In other words, if I “win” an argument and he “loses” it,
neither of us won. L Worry less about being right and more about reaching a solution that
is a win for the team!
5.
Have fun together. Find something you
can enjoy together. Perhaps it’s a
ridiculous reality tv show you watch weekly or a leisure learning class at your
local city center. We will be taking a Spanish class together starting this
month. We are both looking forward to it
so much! Another great idea is taking dance classes together. It really doesn’t matter if you are any
good. You will learn to work as a unit
and laugh at yourselves when you mess up.
Whatever you choose, make sure it’s something fun that you both
want to do.
Can you identify with any of these? What tips do
you have from your own experiences?
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